Leaving your Negative Past Behind
Distancing yourself from the past and the future can help you stay away from the evil disease of depression. Humans show a systematic tendency to perceive the past as more psychologically prevalent than the present. Depression is often associated with negative events from the past such as emotional abuse, loss of a loved one, etc. We all have things from the past that haunt us. This is a very uncomfortable feeling that leaves you even more devastated when a new problem occurs because you blame yourself for some event or action in your past.
Psychological studies show that 60% of human beings remain more prone to negative things from their past than positive incidents. In most of these cases, negative things tend to become a part of their personality and make their life difficult to live. Letting go of this negative past is important if you want to live a stress and depression free life. It’s normal to cling to pain or emotionally distressing incidents, but after a certain “point of time” you need to let the negative feelings subside. But this varies according to the situation. For example, if a person was constantly abused as a child for years, they may have difficulty coping with grief and depression. Therefore, the “moment in time” we are talking about should be greater in this case than when a person did not receive adequate parental attention or care during his childhood. The intensity of pain leading to depression is different in both cases, so recovery time also varies.
Some unfortunate things, if they continue for years, become a part of you, making the world a scary place to live. But the bottom line is how can you let go of this unfortunate past and move on with your life? First of all, remember, nothing in life gets decorated on a silver platter! To be clear enough, nothing in life is easy to achieve. You have to work very hard to overcome this past that dominates your present and still won’t leave you. It has left traces of pain in your mind which lead to a state of depression.
1. To begin with, be honest with yourself and decide who you want to be: a forever victim or an emotionally strong and timely evolved person! Even if you have been a victim, you don’t have to remain a victim.
2. Secondly, you must understand and remember that what happened in the past cannot be changed or undone, can it? No, definitely not! The emotional trauma you experienced changed you as a person and made your life different from others, but do you have a choice here? So, you don’t have to live in victim consciousness forever; you can go through it if you are ready to do the required mental work.
3. Now close your eyes for several minutes and imagine what your life would be like if you didn’t visualize yourself as a victim. A life where you see only the positive things from your past life around you: your friends who have supported you through thick and thin, hobbies and activities you like to do e.g. dancing, visiting places where they make you happy and joyful. , etc. These thoughts will reveal that you are indeed fine and that you were never responsible for the bad things that happened to you in the past. You are a lovable person and the fact that some people have not understood your worth does not mean that you have to jump through hoops to be loved by others.
4. Another thing you really need to focus on is: the weather isn’t always the same, nor are the people around you. Today is different from yesterday and tomorrow will not be like today. So if your past has been bad, at least a couple of accidents have been, it doesn’t mean your future will be the same. The same logic applies to the people around you: if some people have harmed you mentally or caused you pain, it does not mean at all that all your partners or future partners intend to do the same. Things change, situations change and people too, over time. If you live with your fears forever, you will always be far from the most wonderful feeling in this world: LOVE. It’s a powerful feeling that is associated with everything around you: the people, animals, plants, even the non-living creatures around you. And without love, life is meaningless. Love chases life and life too must chase LOVE.
You are just one decision away from improving your present and your future and believe me, if you are reading this article, you are already on your way to improving. Depression is bad, but our thoughts and actions have the power to make it worse. In some cases, though the best, thoughts also have the power to heal everything. So the choice is yours!